Who should do a virtual public school?

We lasted in a virtual public school, our state’s first, for only eight weeks. It’s now been about eight weeks since our decision to quit, and I still get emails from people asking me why we joined, why we quit, and whether or not they should try it.


The “why” anyone does anything is a pretty personal question, but I’ve thought a lot about this and thought I’d pull together some questions that may be helpful to ask yourself before you sign up for a state-sponsored virtual public school.

* Are you ok with having someone else telling you what to do?

At first, I liked having a teacher oversee our progress thinking it’d feel like having a safety net below us. In short time, though, I felt like I was constantly being watched, constantly being reminded how much more progress we needed to make. I realized that after over four years of DIY homeschooling, the oversight of an outside teacher rubbed me the wrong way–though I think some people would appreciate the accountability this forces on them.

* How many kids are you homeschooling?

This was a biggie for us. If your kids are young, I think MAVA (Massachusetts Virtual Academy) is very, very time consuming for the teaching parent. Between the workload of my two girls who were in the program, it was really hard on my youngest son who was not enrolled. I felt like I told him, “Go play—I’ll be there in a minute!” about a hundred times a day. It wasn’t fair to him.

* Can your enrolled student/students work independently?

When I published my “why are my kids crying every day?” post to the MAVA message board, I had one woman tell me that things were going wonderfully for her. Turns out, her daughter was in 8th grade and could do almost all of her work on her own. If you have a very dedicated, task-oriented, independent learner, they may really enjoy a virtual school.

* Has your child been in public school before?

The K12 workload (the curriculum used by MAVA) is pretty intense and can take up the majority of the day to complete regularly. A child who has come out of a full-day school environment may not be as affected by this. For my kids who were used to lots of unstructured time, field trips and classes with friends, this longer school day was a real drag.

* Do you want a boxed, soup-to-nuts curriculum? Really?

In hindsight, this is another reason we should never, ever have joined MAVA. The curriculum we have used over the years has always been pieced together to take advantage of each child’s learning style and ability. Finding ourselves locked into a single curriculum—even one as strong as K12—would not have suited us in the long run.

I realize eight weeks isn’t really long enough to give to a new situation, but I don’t regret our decision at all.

Have you considered a virtual public school, or are you enrolled in one? Do you agree with the above or am I missing something?

I suck at homework

My kids are pretty lucky they don’t go to school because I’ve come to realize I’m “that mom”. You know, the one whose child doesn’t have their permission slip signed, or their homework done, or their art supplies purchased in time for the first class? Yeah, that’s me.

Now that my kids are older and doing more activities out of the house, I’ve found that I just can’t keep up. I’m the one asking Is there a meeting this week? because I can’t find the Brownie newsletter. I’m the one who forgets to get to the store for supplies before a class.

I can’t even remember to put my girls’ hair in a bun before ballet and after yet another gentle scolding by their teacher, they finally figured out how to do it themselves since I can’t be counted on to remember. Actually, I think this is pretty great. I hate doing hair.

“Don’t forget to send. . .” “Don’t forget to have her finish . . .” “Make sure she brings XYZ to the next meeting. . .”. All of this is like Mommy Homework: Yet another thing for me to do/remember/organize/write down. Oh sure, my girls should be held accountable too, though it always comes back to me as, “you forgot to. . .”

But like the hair bun for ballet, maybe I’m secretly hoping that my girls will figure out that I’m not going to get any better at this at my advanced age and they’ll step up to the plate and stay on top of things.

After all, my days of homework should be long gone.

You’ve got a friend


My oldest takes an art class at our much-loved homeschooling coop. Yesterday, in their last class of the session, the kids went around the room and told each other what they liked about each other (admittedly, this has nothing to do with art, but there is a nice vibe of cooperation and honesty that runs through the class, and the kids are encouraged to support one another).


Belly remembered that two girls called her “pretty” (awwww) but the one comment that stuck out to her, to me, and to the teacher was the girl who said this:

If there was someone in the room who didn’t know anyone, you’d be the first person to go over and say hi and be friendly to them.

After such a tough year, when I’ve questioned everything from my parenting ability to my teaching skills, these words are all I need to feel like I’m doing something right.